FIELDS OF GOLD

 

Marian @ Krysan

The Wellbeing Consultancy

Planting Golden Seeds in Northumberland, Tyne & Wear, and Durham

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The world is a great mirror. It reflects back to you what you are. If you are loving, if you are friendly, if you are helpful, the world will prove loving and friendly and helpful to you. The world is what you are." 

~ Thomas Dreier 

 

 

Walking through

F  I  E  L  D  S     O  F     G  O  L  D  

with e-learning

 

Dear Friends

  • Happiness Training 2015
  • Chris Johnstone & Miriam Akhtar
  • Fresh eyes.  New direction.

Currently, I am a student on a Happiness Training 2015 webinar lasting for 8 weeks and I am intending to use this page to share with you some of the highlights of e-learning at its best ... so watch this space as I walk (once again) through fields of gold. First off, we 24 e-learning students - from all over the world - introduced ourselves. Here's what I wrote when I logged in to our secure e-learning platform for the very first time on Wednesday, 9 April 2015 @ 04:13 pm.

Hello.  I am Marian Moore.   I live in a small town between Durham City and Sunderland in the North East of England.  I am a bit tired this evening, the reason being that I spent several hours today listening to various speakers at a conference in a very hot room in Van Mildert College.  The theme was Voices, Visions and other Unusual Experiences!  Interesting, but (as said) tiring.  Positive Psychology is more in my line ... trying to persuade 'the rest' that the pursuit of happiness is the way ahead.  As indeed is 'sweet conversation' and I am so looking forward to same over the coming weeks.  And, I don't even have to leave the house. 

Week 1 - Sustainable happiness.

In essence, the first week's session with Chris and Miriam was given over to an explanation of the web platforms in use, an overview of the course, and (most important) introducing ourselves via our telephone or Skype links. A lot to do in an hour and a half session. But, there was still enough time at this first Wednesday evening meeting to look at the first strategy for consideration: Gratitude. Our homework consisted of starting to keep a Gratitude Journal and noting 3 things that have given pleasure each day.  
 
I was particularly taken by the idea of the Appreciative Gaze, a new term for me and a timely reminder about savouring the everyday sights and sounds that surround us in Nature, for instance, with the advent of Spring, the appearance of snowdrops and daffodils, the birds nesting and singing in the trees, and the pure magic of the dawn chorus. The stars twinkling at night.  And, of course, the joyfulness of new-born lambs ...
 
Happiness in Action: This week, woke (unusually) at dawn to the chorus of birds. Inspired to resume research at 5.00 am and then satisfactorily complete a previously overwhelming blog on voices and visions which had hitherto stumped me completely. Fresh eyes.  New direction.

Week 2 - The positive self.

As part of our homework for Week 2, we were asked to log on and take the VIA Strengths Test. The test is free and I had no hesitation in following the web link provided and answering the 120 questions.  It was easy enough, took about 20 minutes, and I was instantly rewarded with a computer-generated list of my character strengths.  Five of these were up for discussion by each of the group in the conference call of Week 2.  

My five top strengths turned out to be: (1) zest for life, (2) love in relationship (3) perseverance in completing tasks, (4) creativity in artistic endeavours, (5) curiosity in exploring the wonder of life. Identifying and then building on one's own particular strengths is obviously a useful strategy in life. This is true whatever our age and circumstance. The VIA Strengths Test? Highly recommended.  Gives direction.

Happiness in Action: Using the characteristics of zest for life and love in relationship, I spent vast quantities of time/energy this week with a member of my close family who is house-hunting, this according to a mature 'design for living' which I admire.  Still - treading carefully through a minefield of possibilities affecting other people's lives.  Fresh eyes.  New direction.

Week 3 - Learned Optimism.  

Two academic papers on using one's identified strengths had been made available on the learning platform to enhance our learning thus far, this being the main focus for our homework and the preparation for Week 3. That reminds me ... the house-hunting is proceeding apace and my beautiful granddaughter is 17 today. Everything is good here at Krysan.  Weather beautiful, too! 

This satisfaction with life was not always so.  For twelve years, I was very short on optimism and even hope.  During this third session, we e-learners were given access to a helpful analytical framework which includes two distinct ways in which people view the world.  Those of us who were high achievers throughout our formative years often develop a Fixed Mindset.  As in my case, this can prove disastrous when tragedy/failure hits in later life - as it does and did.  We - of the Fixed Mindset -  can then find ourselves in deep trouble, even stuck fast.  Unable to change.  No way through.

Happiness in Action.  Entrenched beliefs about life/work/love are notoriously difficult to shift. As well as participating in this webinar on Positive Psychology, I am also receiving therapy of a more esoteric nature, Sai Vibrionics.  Both new, but to my mind related, systems are without doubt moving me steadily towards the more flexible (and safer) Growth Mindset which I now work to internalise and make my own in these, my twilight years.  Fresh eyes. New direction. 

Week 4 - Nurturing Relationships.

Last week's homework was to project into the future and consider life as My Best Possible Self.  I already know this to be a practical navigational exercise, one very much related to what has gone before and a singularly useful step towards achieving the goal of sustainable happiness.  I can personally vouch for that.  Plants golden seeds. 

Something else of potential was an exercise around the need to have around us people who fulfil essential Friendship Roles. The first four roles identified were  (1) the builder, (2) the champion, (3) the collaborator, and (4) the companion. Next came (5) the connector, (6) the energiser, (7) the mind-opener, and (8) the navigator.  Whilst my husband of many years effortlessly fulfils (1) to (4), my women friends - Jeanette, Linda, Miriam, and Suchitha - respectively fulfil roles (5) to (8) for me. For this, I thank them, one and all.   

Happiness in Action.  My son's house-hunting quest struck gold today with the discovery of a house that ticks all the boxes ... my grandchild, too, has (potentially) struck gold in her young life. Nurturing relationships is a priority for me (and also for them).  'To have friends, we first must be a friend. We do not influence people, we co-operate with them.'  Good advice contained therein.  Fresh eyes.  New direction.

Week 5 - 8 ...

 


Notes

  • 20 September 2015
  • Dear Friends

I hope that by now I have written enough to whet your appetite to know more about the course, Happiness Training 2015.  I leave you with this a copy email received today from Dr. Chris Johnstone.  It is self-explanatory.

Educational Announcement

  Hi Marian, an educational announcement has been made from Chris, instructor of

   "Personal Resilience in an Hour".

I have two bonus extras to announce. 

1) A short film (under 10 mins) called The Natural Antidepressant looking at how the SSRI toolkit described in Strategy Four can help protect against depression. You can watch this on You-Tube at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GdJ6MN4nKbQ

2) Just for the next 2 or 3 days (until Sept 23rd), I've opened up a free online Positive Psychology resource for you to visit, watch video and other resources, ask questions and engage in discussions. You can see this at https://app.ruzuku.com/courses/10523/about

Also, I produce a periodic free email newsletter pointing to resources and useful information linked to resilience and wellbeing. You can see a recent copy at this link or subscribe here.

Please do pass these resources on to interested friends. 

I'd love to know how you're finding the course, so please let me know in the comments section or post a review if you've found it helpful. 

Best wishes

Chris.

Dr Chris Johnstone

Resilience Specialist, CollegeofWellbeing.com

 


 

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My kind of poetry.

THE TIGER

by
William Blake

  • Tiger, tiger, burning bright
  • In the forests of the night,
  • What immortal hand or eye
  • Could frame thy fearful symmetry?
  • In what distant deeps or skies
  • Burnt the fire of thine eyes?
  • On what wings dare he aspire?
  • What the hand dare seize the fire?
  • And what shoulder and what art
  • Could twist the sinews of thy heart?
  • And when thy heart began to beat,
  • What dread hand and what dread feet?
  • What the hammer? what the chain?
  • In what furnace was thy brain?
  • What the anvil? What dread grasp
  • Dare its deadly terrors clasp?
  • When the stars threw down their spears,
  • And water'd heaven with their tears,
  • Did He smile His work to see?
  • Did He who made the lamb make thee?
  • Tiger, tiger, burning bright
  • In the forests of the night,
  • What immortal hand or eye
  • Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?

 


 

My kind of music.

Sting - Fields of Gold - YouTube

You'll remember me when the west wind moves
Upon the fields of barley.
You'll forget the sun ...
 
 

  

 

ENDS 

1924 @ 22017-05-18

 


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