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I have taken great care not to laugh at human actions, nor to weep at them,
nor to hate them, but to understand them.

*** Baruch Spinoza ***









You will no doubt be wondering what this has to do with Compassion IQ, well hang on a bit and (with the help of Dr. Christine Northrup) I'll tell you.  

But while you are waiting, please consider this, have you ever been told not to speak unless spoken to? Or, maybe someone told you never to speak unless you had something nice to say? Even had said (and not in jest) 'whisht woman' (or similar) when you were in full flight ... ? 

Such remarks are not (definitely not) examples of Compassion IQ.  

At the very least they show a lack of respect towards women (and their daughters) in homes, schools and workplaces around the world. Even in clinics and surgeries. At the very most such comments (such put-downs) damage women's health and indeed are now seen to be directly responsible for much ill-health.  

Emotional and physical wellbeing are related at a cellular level. 

Now, please consider the evidence.  It comes to you (and me) from said Dr. Christine Northrup, a medical doctor of long-experience of women's health and with an abundance of Compassion IQ towards womankind. She sends out a clearly-worded, urgent wake-up call to the whole of world-wounded humanity - not just women.  

We're all in this together.  Different but complimentary.  




I quote directly from Dr. Northrop's blog received today into my Inbox - a timely reminder of many things dear to my heart, including Women's Health and Human Rights.  A lot at stake.

"We hear of so many “silent” diseases today — everything from thyroid disease to heart disease, kidney and liver dysfunction to Celiac disease, and from “female problems” to the now-popular Lyme disease. And, just look at all the new books there are recounting someone’s “suffering in silence” from one of these and many other diseases!"

But, what is really going here?  I’ll tell you: Silence IS the disease.

"Women are often the ones who suffer their symptoms in silence. Often they have been shamed by doctors who don’t want to hear how the standard protocols don’t help them. This is the same thing as being bullied! However, it’s far more subtle than outright bullying.  For example, how many of you have been handed a referral to a psychiatrist or worse, a prescription for anti-depressants, and a reputation for being a difficult patient just because you spoke up to your doctor?"

And, sometimes even your own family members (both male and female) are the ones who are insensitive when you express discomfort or ask for support.  As such, many women feel guilty about speaking up about their symptoms.

"Much of this has to do with our patriarchal society and the belief that the masculine ways of being (and doing) are superior to the feminine ways of being (and doing). This programming has been a part of World culture for thousands of years. And after 5,000 years of patriarchal programming, it’s no surprise that women get sick in the uniquely female areas of their bodies or have unique expressions of other diseases manifesting in symptoms that cannot be healed through the conventional ways of doing things.

"The irony here is that our health care system is designed around the belief that a woman’s body will eventually cause suffering and pain, and she will ultimately require a great deal of testing and medical care from the system that won’t listen to her in the first place." NORTHROP, 2015

In order to heal, Speak Up!  Silence IS the disease.




A heart-to-heart with Dr. Christine Northrup would find her offering some very good advice, tips directed at developing Compassion IQ - towards ourselves.

Tips for How YOU Can Learn to Speak Up

"Improving your diet and lifestyle are not enough to relieve all of your symptoms or conditions.  In order to heal, you need to find your voice and express what you feel.  Here’s what I suggest:

Find a doctor you can partner with. The secret to thriving is knowing that you are never simply a victim of your body or other peoples’ perceptions of it – including your doctor’s! Find a health care practitioner who you feel comfortable talking to. When you can voice your own opinions, intuition, concerns and wishes, you will feel more positive about recovering your health.

  1. Surround yourself with friends who want you to be healthy. You know the saying, “misery loves company.”  Many people find friends that have the same health issues and then spend their time together dwelling on their symptoms. This can also run in families.  While its good to be able to express how you are feeling, it’s the expression itself that heals.  When you dwell on your symptoms and relive them over and over, you are actually perpetuating your illness. Find friends who have good health and healthy habits, who will listen to you, but will also encourage you.
  1. Speak kindly about your body. Often when people are sick — especially when they are living with a chronic condition – they have a tendency to get frustrated and speak in a less-than-loving manner about their bodies. Healing your physical symptoms starts by changing your perception of your body and speaking about it, and to it, with love.  This allows you to own your role in your own healing process. If you don’t know where to begin, simply start by saying “I love and accept myself in this body unconditionally.” Say this out loud in front of mirror every day.  If you have a specific issue or symptom, you can say “despite my headaches (fill in the blank), I love and accept myself unconditionally.”
  1. Practice having your say. If you are having trouble speaking to someone about your symptoms or conditions – whether it’s your doctor, a family member, work colleagues or friends – practice what you need to convey to them ahead of time.  You can even write down bullet points or an entire script to help you. If you feel that you will not be given the time to say what you need to tell someone, make an appointment.  Don’t short change yourself if someone says they have limited time.  Say you will reschedule and then follow up.
  1. Know that the act of speaking up is enough. Often I hear women say, “I don’t speak up because I am never heard.” Or, “no one listens when I speak.”  The reality is, you are heard more than you know.  That does not mean everyone will want to engage you on your level.  And that’s ok. Your truth is your truth. It may not be anyone else’s.  However, your truth is valid!  You deserve to speak it and to be heard. But remember, you will never be able to control how someone perceives you, so release your attachment to being heard or having what you say validated. The simple act of speaking up for yourself helps to heal your body and your soul.  As you speak up more, you will begin to attract those people who are willing to listen. You can also practice saying “my voice is necessary. What I have to say is valuable.” NORTHRUP, 2015

Here, I must leave the good Dr. Christine Northrup and the tip (of the tip, of the tip) of the iceberg re Compassion IQ.  But, the dye is now cast and shortly I will return with a little about 'The Compassionate Mind', this via Paul Gilbert's remarkable self-help book of the same name.  Watch this space.  Marian Moore.


Saturday 6 February 2016
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Gurteen Knowledge Quote of the Day

Monday January 11, 2016

A man found an eagle's egg and put it in a nest of a barnyard hen. The
eaglet hatched with the brood of chicks and grew up with them. All his life
the eagle did what the barnyard chicks did, thinking he was a barnyard
chicken. He scratched the earth for worms and insects. He clucked and
cackled. And he would thrash his wings and fly a few feet into the air.

Years passed and the eagle grew very old. One day he saw a magnificent
bird above him in the cloudless sky. It glided in graceful majesty among
the powerful wind currents, with scarcely a beat on his strong golden
wings. The old eagle looked up in awe. "Who's that?" he asked. "That's the
eagle, the king of the birds," said his neighbour. "He belongs to the sky.
We belong to the earth - we're chickens." So the eagle lived and died a
chicken, for that's what he thought he was.

*** Anthony de Mello (1931 - 1987) Jesuit Priest ***





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